| Location | Dukinfield |
| Age | 24 years |
| Date of Birth | 11/1978 |
| Date of Death | 2/2003 |
| Visitors | 1,149 since 04/01/2008 |
| Creator |
Jamie Matthew fletcher, died on 15th Feburary 2003 aged 24. Jamie had been unable to work for some tme, he was suffering from depression. Jamie lived here at home with us, Mum, Dad and at that time his older brother.
Jamie died of suicide. Having been ill for some time with depression, he rarely left the house apart to visit his Gran. He would go there most days to help with cleaning the house for her. She lived lesss than 5mins walking distance away, and he would sit with her for awhile.
For a while, whilst taking anti-depressants he seemed to improve. This did not last for long though, and I struggled so hard to get him help for the mental health team. I was to find out after has death (along with the fact he also suffered fron suicidal ideation) Jamie was classed as ' low priorty' so no amount of phone calls asking for help were to make any impression with this Trust.
On the day he died, Saturday the 15th Feb he had been to his Grans. He was called on the phone to come home by his brother. After arriving home there was brief arugment, then Jamie left the house in a terrible state, so unlike him, angry, shouting. This was at 2.30pm. He was never to return.
As his behaviour was so out of charcter, I was extremely worried, I took my car to drive around and look for him. I came home around 6pm. At 6.30pm his Dad and I Were about to go out on foot to look for him, when the police arrived.
Jamie had been found hanging from a tree in a secluded area of a local beauty spot by a dog walker at 4.30 that afternoon. My life changed forever that awful day.
Jamie had always been a shy, sensitive boy. He found it difficult to make friends. Around the time he was 16 and at college, he formed a close friendship with a couple of boys he met there. This lasted untill he was around 18/19, then everything stopped. He hardly ever left his bedroom from then on. He would listen to music and read a lot.
During the period of improvement, he would come out with me often. We would go to Manchester to look around music shops for old records. For that short time we had some fun, and a closeness that I loved, and miss so so much now.
Jamie was a lovely boy. Sensitive and caring. I miss him so much. My greatest regret is that a could'nt get him the help he needed in time, that I could'nt get the mental health service to take notice when I asked for help.
I will love and miss him forever.
My Beautiful Boy: Jamie
I have just read your words on how your lovely son Jamie lost the battle,
but on reading it all the way through, I was so shocked to think that the "mental health teams" can keep on getting it so wrong.
You see sylvia, my story is a true mirror image of yours,in EVERY respect.
My love and thoughts go out to you & yours..x
God bless you Jamie & I pray you have found your peace.x
Who's To Blame? - by Christine Ross
Who's to blame for suicide?
The question often heard.
Someone always points a finger
And they say such hurtful words.
They never do consider that
It's caused from a disease.
Depression and Bipolar
Are just a few of these.
Some die from being murdered.
Some die from accidents.
Some die from pneumonia,
But none of it makes sense.
Sometimes body parts wear out
Way before their time.
Some lose the cancer battle,
But it all seems so unkind.
No matter how they leave us
It never is their choice.
There's something deep within them
That has a bigger voice.
So please refuse to take the blame
For the THING that took your child.
Although others point their fingers.
They haven't walked your mile.
To love is to never forget,
To never forget is to have memories,
To have memories makes us smile,
To smile is to feel happiness,
To feel happiness is to think of our loved ones,
And never forget.
love marie x
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sorry lv not done candles for a few days as lv been decorating lee's bedroom ,its been pretty much just left the same since he left us and l got very emotional going through all his bits and bobs ,loads of tears....... but the room looks lovely and l think he would approve.
l just felt too sad to come on and light my angels candles,so sorry .xxx
jamies
two jamies in heaven together.help each other.but help us.we need you more than ever now.for some it is hell down here and i am sure you are now at peace.but boys you left us in hell!!the pain of losing your child never goes away.we just have to learn to live with it,in time.for you boys your pain ouldn't go away either.as mums we tried.but we couldn't save you.we couldnt take your pain away cos we would.
i hope the demons that tormented you have left your bodies.tracey
Just letting you know I was here
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to leave my love xxxxxxxx
so sorry.xxx
sweetdreams jamie.xxxxxlove to you and your family.I lost my son kyle the same way in march 08.xxxxxx
thinking of you dear Sylvia love sheila
Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.
Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He is Dead
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.
He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last forever: I was wrong.
The stars are not wanted now; put out every one,
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun,
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the woods;
For nothing now can ever come to any good.
NATIONAL SUICIDE AWARENESS DAY 16th April 2008
MY son took his own life too in september 2006..my heart goes out to you
They said there was no reason,
they said that time would heal.
But neither time nor reason,
will change the way I feel.
For no one knows the heartache,
that lies beyond my smile.
No one knows how many times,
I have broken down and cried.
I want to tell you something
so there won't be any doubt,
your'e so wonderful to think off,
but so hard to live without.
If you would like to join a group for those that lost their loved ones this way look on the links here on GTS and you will find the place...WE LOST OUR LOVED ONES TO SUICIDE
Although I never had the chance to meet Jamie i have heard so much about him that I know what a lovely, caring and sensitive person he was. So much has happened over the last few years that i really wish Jamie could have been there for.
I know how difficult it is for you Sylvia but I feel really proud of you for all the time and energy you have put into investigating the care Jamie recieved by Health Professionals. I hope you find the answers you need and that you get a result that will help you.
I truly wish that I had met you Jamie x x x
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